[Fandom Snowflake Challenge] Day 10 - Favorite Tropes/Clichés/Motifs/Kinks/Themes

Day 10
In your own space, share your love for a trope, cliché, kink, motif, or theme. (Or a few!) Tell us what makes it work for you, and why it appeals to you so much. Talk about what you like to see in fanworks featuring that theme most. Feel free to include recs and examples!
Cliché: Absence makes the heart grow fonder
Related to slowburn kink for me. Personally I can't do long distance relationships but I love reading them.

Trope: Odd Couple
I just love it when unlikely characters get paired together whether it's for a romantic relationship, a work relationship, or friendship fic

Narrative Kinks:
- damsel in defense/strong women
- bechdel pass
- fandom allusions and references
- AUs particularly canon divergence fix-its or fork-in-the-road AUs but AUs and fusions in general are fun
- Genderfic
- Acefic
- multishipping
- polyamory done right
-disability/neurodiversity fic
- competency
- domesticity
- nonsexual ageplay

Sexy Kinks
- slowburn
- BDSM done right
- voyeurism
- age differences
- oralplay
- sexual ageplay

Themes: love/hope

Message: family of choice, people need people

[Fandom Snowflake Challenge] Day 11 - Fandom that changed your life

Day 11

Share a book/song/movie/tv show/fanwork/etc that changed your life.

The one fandom that I think changed my life the most is the one fandom i'm not really active in and got into late: Jacqueline Carey's Kushiel's Legacy series, specifically Imriel's arc. It was the first time I'd ever found someone who explicitly wrote PTSD recovery fairly realistically in fiction. And basically ignited my love for disability/neurodiversity fic. I started reading and writing disability fic in other fandoms and original work because of Imriel. Because I wanted more of it and more varieties of it.